There is a lot of give-and-take as well as the need to compromise often. Unfortunately, not every relationship will last, but when alcohol is involved, it makes maintaining a serious relationship even more challenging.
Can You Have A Healthy Relationship with An Alcoholic?
Often when alcohol is involved in excess, it can create a toxic or unhealthy dynamic in a relationship. Along with issues of trust, alcoholism may lead to financial hardships for the family as a whole or an uneven balance of responsibility. Sometimes alcoholics can even become violent when drinking. Even being in a relationship with a high-functioning alcoholic can lead to serious problems that can eventually ruin your relationship. More often than not, the only way to have a happy and healthy relationship with an alcoholic is for them to get sober. Sadly, even that will not guarantee that the problems in your relationship will go away or that your relationship will survive as too much damage may have already been done.
Tips for Being in A Relationship with an Alcoholic
If you are currently married to an alcoholic or dating one, you may be struggling with how to cope. You love them, but when they drink, they become a different person. Should you stay? Should you leave? If you are in a relationship with an alcoholic, these tips may be able to help.
Too often, alcoholism in a relationship creates a toxic dynamic. The loved one of the alcoholic may unknowingly be enabling the alcoholic and their drinking habits. One of the best ways to keep this from happening is to set and follow strict boundaries related to their drinking and behavior.
Express How You Are Feeling
Sometimes we forget that our significant others are not mind readers. While you may have mentioned their drinking habits before, if you do not explicitly tell them, they may not understand the extent of your concerns. Approach them calmly while they are sober and have someone else present if you are fearful that they could become aggressive. You could also approach them with the assistance of a professional alcohol interventionalist to decrease the chances of confrontation.
Try to Get Them Help
If your loved one’s drinking has become problematic, they need an alcohol treatment center. While you cannot force someone to enter into treatment, you can try to point them in the right direction. Their sobriety could save your relationship.
Get Help for Yourself
Along with trying to get them help, you need to get help for yourself. You could get help by talking to a professional, joining a support group, or even therapy for family members of addicts. While your biggest concern may be your significant other, neglecting your needs will only make you unhappy and cause problems in your relationship.
Know Your Limits
If you tried and tried to get them help, but they refuse, it may be time to leave. While leaving a relationship with an alcoholic can be scary, it may be in your best interest. Especially if they become abusive or aggressive when drinking, you should not stay in the relationship. If you are concerned about your safety, have someone else present when you leave and make sure they are sober.
If your loved one is an alcoholic or you struggle with drinking yourself, do not wait any longer to get treatment. At Banyan Treatment Center Chicago, we help patients stop drinking and work toward happier and sober lives.
To learn more or to get started with one of our programs, call us today at 888-280-4763.
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Alyssa is Banyan’s Director of Digital Marketing & Technology. After overcoming her own struggles with addiction, she began working in the treatment field in 2012. She graduated from Palm Beach State College in 2016 with additional education in Salesforce University programs. A part of the Banyan team since 2016, Alyssa brings over 5 years of experience in the addiction treatment field.